tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998998547000813414.post7610075106115889106..comments2023-12-08T01:00:57.240-08:00Comments on My Buddha is pink: What about only on Tuesdays?Richard Harroldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02943119066949899198noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998998547000813414.post-88133611052469442612012-02-06T09:23:10.841-08:002012-02-06T09:23:10.841-08:00Excellent point Nathan. Just shows that regardless...Excellent point Nathan. Just shows that regardless of number, unskillfullness manifested in some form of clingling or aversion is a root cause of problems connected with interpersonal relationships. Which also lends support to the Buddha's dictum of total abstinence for monks.Richard Harroldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02943119066949899198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998998547000813414.post-35384053067898712772012-02-06T09:12:39.931-08:002012-02-06T09:12:39.931-08:00"Regardless of what you do, it’s about skillf..."Regardless of what you do, it’s about skillfulness." This is a very important point. I have been wrestling with these issues a lot lately myself. I have always preferred monogamy, but have been questioning the ways in which monogamous relationships tend to get structured. Specifically, the ways in which possessiveness of one's partner often goes unquestioned, and is even lauded as a sign of love - which I don't think it is at all. <br /><br />It strikes me though, that most of us seem to think about this kind of thing in terms of number of partners. The majority opting for one partner, while a minority chooses more than one. And yet, what seems to happen from my point of view is that possessiveness and it's attendant emotions (like jealousy) usually get punted around. In unskillful poly situations, everything remains on the surface level, and so possessiveness is never really faced. Whereas in unskillful monogamous relationships, possessiveness collapses love into attachment, and greed and fear rule the relationship.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.com