OK, stop throwing shade. I know I'm a day late on this.
But when was the last time you knew of a gay man showing up on time for
anything? I thought so. I was caught by surprise anyway to learn that it was
already Groundhog Day. Somehow I envisioned this momentous event occurring a
bit later. Had I known I would have thrown a special fete and bought a new
shirt or something. Well, I did buy a couple CDs yesterday.
Anyway, while I was on a stationary bicycle at the gym
trying to burn off some portliness I had accumulated during my absence from
exercise the past six weeks because of a broken foot, I happened to see on the
television screen on the stationary bicycle next to me (yes, those mini TV's
are ubiquitous at just about every gym these days) Bill Murray in the scene
from the movie "Groundhog Day" when he wakes up the day after
Groundhog Day and realizes that he's finally broken the cycle of the same day
being repeated over and over, leading him to nearly lose his mind.
Wow, that was a seriously long sentence.
But the point is when he wakes up on the morning after
Groundhog Day, he realizes that he can move forward now. The joy it brings him
is sublime. He experiences a satisfaction so supreme that he remains motivated
to continue walking the same path that led him to cease being the self-centered
and selfish prick he had been at the start of the movie.
I have always thought that this movie presented the
principle theme of the Bhaddekaratta Sutta extraordinarily well.
o_O What has a movie featuring a corpulent rodent and an
insensitive man who continually alienates himself from others because of his
lack of compassion and empathy to do with the Buddha's Dhamma, you ask?
A lot more than you may think. And this movie is also
instructive when you think about some of the other teachings of the Buddha I
mention frequently in my blog posts.
Bill Murray's character, Phil, is a crass and insensitive
television meteorologist who has the hots for Andie MacDowell's character,
Rita, his producer. But Rita wants nothing to do with Phil because he is crass
and insensitive. In fact, Phil's relationships with others are so poisoned by
his flippant selfishness that his co-workers tolerate him solely because on
air, his audience loves him.
People who are unlikable do not become unlikable in a
moment; rather, such a person creates this persona over time with the way he or
she manifests his or her intentions into actions or words while interacting with
others. It is usually a gradual process, much like slowly adding salt to a large glass of water. If you add one salt crystal to the water, you will not
taste it. But if you continue to add salt to the water, it will eventually
become so salty it is undrinkable.
Phil is a glass of water so salty that no one wants to
take even the merest sip. And the point is Phil has done this on his own
through his interactions with his co-workers. As expected, he continues to
behave the way he does with the expectation that others will accommodate his
selfishness and self-absorbed ego as he and his crew travel to cover a weather
forecasting "rat," as he calls Punxsutawney Phil.
And then a curious thing occurs. When Phil wakes up the
following morning, he soon realizes that it is Groundhog Day all over again.
The next day, the same. And the next day, and so on. Phil becomes frustrated
because like many of us, he has always expected the world around him to
accommodate his actions and character. But the world suddenly refuses to budge.
Slowly, Phil begins to adapt, shown when he learns to
avoid the puddle he always steps in every morning. And he begins to see an
opportunity to change, although his motivation remains selfish: he wants Rita.
Nothing wrong with starting a new path when motivated by
selfish reasons. The point is to strike out a new path and stop doing
everything the same way while still expecting different results. Much like the
Buddha's teaching to his son Rahula, Phil reflects on his actions and the
likely consequences they bring. He seeks a specific result - that Rita will
fall in love with him - and so he gradually modifies his actions and his speech
until he develops the behaviors that lead him to his desired result.
Along the way, something completely unintended occurs:
Phil develops compassion. This is shown through his futile efforts to save a
local homeless man and prevent his ultimate death. Phil believes, based on
everything else he's been doing, that he can find a way to create a different
tomorrow for this homeless man, but despite his repeated efforts, the man
always dies.
Phil learns to let go. This is extraordinarily important.
Because if Phil doesn't learn to let go, then his initial selfish motivation to
change won't fully transform into real human compassion. But he does let go and
his desire for Rita is no longer motivated by greed. Phil learns at last how to
live within the moment, becoming fully aware that how he behaves right now is
creating his future.
You shouldn't chase after the past
or place expectations on the future.
What is past
is
left behind.
The future
is as
yet unreached.
Whatever quality is present
you clearly see right there,
right there.
Just as the Buddha taught, Phil eventually realized the
opportunity he had to change the direction of his karma, to ultimately erase
his karma. We all have that same opportunity to do that. Every day is a new
opportunity to become more aware of the present, another chance to relinquish
our grip on the past, and recognize that what we think, say, and do in this moment
will shape our future.
This is Buddhism. This is the path I strive to follow.
Letting go is a tough one for me. One of my biggest faults is the inability to give up, even when it's clearly a lost cause.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this article.
Thank you for your comment. Letting go is difficult, it is the nature of clinging and the source of dukkha.
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